This article will discuss how introverts open up emotionally by considering the life that surrounds them. For them, instead of seeing this as an emotional vacuum, it’s an opportunity to reflect on their environment and their life experiences.
In her book, The Introvert Advantage, Dr. Kristin Neff outlines how introverts have a narrower social perception field than extroverts. They view the world in very different ways, and this narrow view creates an opportunity for introverts to gain insight.
One of the most useful concepts from this book is the Extroverted Visual Field: Introverts use many parts of the visual field more efficiently than extroverts. By following the opposite of the average social inclination, introverts allow themselves to perceive life around them more in-depth.
This then opens up room for introverts to reflect upon the situation. They aren’t paralyzed by the fear of opening up with an emotional experience because they can use the visual field to their advantage. Introverts can quickly tell if a social situation is enjoyable or not because they use it.
For those introverts that have used this technique, it’s often been the single driving force to gaining a deeper understanding of their society and human nature.
The book also goes in-depth on introvert-specific processing for emotions. It’s important to understand that there are major differences in the ways introverts process emotions and the way they learn and interact socially.
The bottom line for introverts is that using the visual field of human interaction can help them connect better.
We’ve covered the basics of the visual field for introverts in this article. It’s a good tool that helps them quickly tell if they’re connecting socially and having fun. However, there is more to it.
Knowing the visual field doesn’t make them better people or good socialites. This field gives them an advantage, but it doesn’t make them social butterflies.
It’s more useful as a tool to help them to have fun with others and get to know them better. Using this method, they can be more successful in getting to know someone better because it doesn’t take much effort for introverts to connect on a subconscious level.
An example will be if you’re out on a date with someone you don’t feel comfortable with. Let’s say you’re sitting next to them at the dinner table.
They’re talking to you, and you’re not getting a good vibe. You’re wondering if this person will get up and leave or leave because you don’t feel comfortable.
What introverts would do to overcome this dilemma is look at them through the visual field to see if they are as happy as you think they are. This method helps them with making sure they feel comfortable and also see how they are behaving.
Since introverts use their visual field of social interactions more efficiently, it gives them a chance to interact with others in a way that is most productive for the conversation.
The point of this is not to get stuck on feeling inferior to your peers because you don’t like a person’s mannerisms or way of speaking. Let’s face it; everyone is going to react differently when interacting with people.
Some people have very few social anxieties, while others have severe social anxiety, which has many drawbacks.
Take a lesson from the visual field for introverts and use it as a tool to make sure you’re connecting well with others in a positive way. This doesn’t make you a better person by any means, but it will help you improve as a person and form friendships more productively.
Just like we go to the bathroom, the body needs to release some of its tension. And crying allows us to release stress, which it can’t do when we are not physically releasing.
I have cried after giving a speech that went horribly wrong. I would’ve rather choked on my words and had a public breakdown.
I also cried during a lecture that was so boring I couldn’t see a thing. Like hell, was I supposed to be paying attention.
If there’s one thing I hate doing, it’s sitting in a boring lecture or seminar. So when a lecturer asked me questions in the middle of it, I thought my brain would pop out of my ears.
I also cried at a conference with a lecturer I hated working with.
The emotion that you feel during crying is called the release of pent-up anger. Maybe that lecturer had some serious anger issues and had no right speaking to us that way.
I am dunno. The point is that when a human being starts crying and you have anger inside you, the tears you cry to do something to release it.
We also cry out of empathy. I cry when I witness someone sad.
I cry when I think about someone who is going through a hard time. We cannot possibly stand to see anyone in pain, and I certainly don’t have the right to do anything.
Crying is also an emotional release of frustration. We often have thoughts that are not logical, and we have to push them down before they consume us.
A part of our brain takes in all of the information we are given, and then we let it stew in our hearts. The emotions build-up, especially if you are feeling overwhelmed.
And when you are overwhelmed, you cry.
The conclusion is that we cry out of emotion. Sometimes that emotion is anger.
Sometimes that emotion is fear. Sometimes that emotion is loneliness.
Other times the emotion we feel is because of embarrassment. We don’t know what to say or what to do, and we feel so uncomfortable with our emotions.
Crying like a sad person is also different. In the case of sad people, they get tired, that is all.
There are no emotions of sadness about it. It’s just that they feel tired.
But our sadness has to do with disappointment. As much as sadness is an emotion, some situations make us sad.
If someone hurts our feelings, we cry. We cry because something went wrong.
There is a strange sense of empathy when you cry. You empathize with other people’s emotions, and even though you can’t do anything to help, you feel bad about that person’s misfortune, and you want to help make things better.
So when you think about it, crying is a funny thing that people do, and we all do it.
Don’t get me wrong, we are all emotional beings, but we all have different crying reasons.
I don’t think we cry out of pity. But it’s just different.
Crying to relate
The way we cry is also very different. Some cry to express pain.
When you cry, there are stories that your face will crinkle up as if you are trying to cry with your mouth. You say things like, “He’s crying so hard he can’t breathe,” and you gasp for air as your body spasms, and you try to breathe.
You want to help.
Some cry out of disbelief. We sometimes cry because we don’t know what to think or how to process the situation.
A friend may have just called you and told you they are going to commit suicide. And when you ask why and they tell you, you cry.
You feel guilty that you’re emotional, and you know there’s nothing you can do. And when you cry out of disbelief, you ask, “How can this be true?”
Sometimes people cry because they are jealous. They want what someone else has.
They may feel that that person has gotten something they want, and therefore, they want that for themselves. They cry out of fear.
So often, when we cry out of jealousy, we feel that we have lost something important to us, and we don’t want to lose it. We need to give it up, or we feel like we are being threatened or like we are failing in some way.
In contrast, other people cry out of frustration. They cry when they are stressed out.
They cry when they are busy. They cry when they don’t understand what is happening around them.
They cry because they are unable to handle what’s happening around them.
They may think that their lives are moving in a particular direction and they’re being held back by some event or circumstance. They cry because they don’t want to go through that moment again.
They cry when they are aware that someone else is unhappy.
Crying out of guilt
Sometimes people cry out of guilt. And I think guilt is a big reason why people cry.
Crying out of guilt means that you feel that your body or mind is aching or not working properly. That it is not behaving in the way that it should be.
That it does not feel natural or like it’s supposed to feel.
Some people cry because they feel guilty about something they have done or something they have not done. They feel guilty because they feel that they have done something wrong.
Or they cry out of guilt that they are not doing what they should be doing.
When we cry out of guilt, we don’t cry out of sadness. It’s sad, but not sad.
We are aware of something we should be doing, but we don’t do it. We feel guilty about not doing it.