This article will discuss how to get a Virgo man to open up emotionally in a healthy, loving way. What does it take to get a Virgo man to open up and share feelings?
Here is the Virgo man’s stammering problem at the same time as he is dealing with an overwhelming public environment. Hence, you need to understand that the environment is overwhelming, but so is his space inside.
Check his mood and behavior
Before you even sit down to talk to him, it might be wise to check in with him, to check if he has had his tea or caffeine before you start on your usual long-winded dissertation that you are really passionate about, that you want to ‘educate’ him on, and on, and on, but is just not getting any airtime.
This is also when you also need to realize that you can’t use any form of scolding and shaming for the display’s behavior. Remember, in fact, you should love towards him, and you should also not mention the topic that he is stammering on during your ‘diplomatic’ talk if you’re trying to ‘educate’ him about something he shouldn’t be doing in the first place.
After that, you need to decide if you want to continue, as if you were not witnessing his stammering (if you just saw his quirky behavior and you were wondering what was up) or if you are going to take a direct approach and ask him directly about his stammering.
You need to decide whether you would like to sit there and watch him struggle silently or take some action for him like you’re thinking of adopting him or something and helping him overcome his problem.
It takes two people to have a successful relationship
A helpful hint for the shy one who is acting shy but doesn’t want to talk in reality. There is a simple fix for you!
Ask him to do a task with you and ask him to deliver the result of the task. Most of the time, he will be reluctant, but he will eventually do it.
Let him find the way for himself
Another idea for the shy one who is very disciplined. If you know how to discipline yourself, you could start with some gentle and quite boring tasks that require nothing but the least bit of effort.
A task like writing a letter, for instance. He can get off his lazy arse and write a letter to a friend.
If he finds the task to be very boring, he will definitely find it easy to motivate himself and be motivated to find out how to improve his own skill in that area.
Virgo men are not friends with benefits
In our society, we put men into two categories: friends with benefits or true love. The people we love most aren’t allowed to be friends with benefits.
Now, a friend with benefits is different than true love. For one, a friend with benefits is interested in doing something sexual with you, while true love is interested in a deeper connection.
Of course, this is not always the case. But just like in real life, you have to consider what the person you are with actually wants and what you actually want.
You need to understand that Virgo men like to think of themselves as men of many words, but usually, they say too few and end up just saying “ok.” They prefer to keep up the mystique and pretend to be some wit.
This is how Virgo men tend to get stuck in their ruts and not move forward. Because of this, they get caught up in a “war of words” that they would rather avoid.
They don’t want to openly admit that they are in a relationship because they will be judged as fraud.
Respect them
Unfortunately, for a very long time, men thought of women as evil, lying “bitches” who could not own their sexuality and tell the truth. Virgo men don’t want to be judged as a deceiver.
So they act tough, lie about their feelings, and try to seem like someone they are not.
This is not good for them. They are better off being upfront with a woman and telling her what they are feeling.
Another reason why Virgo men are reluctant to tell their girlfriends that they love them is because they don’t like being in their “friend zone.” They don’t like to be seen as needy.
They don’t want to be seen as the “baby man” in a relationship, and Virgo men are afraid of being dumped for another man in their life.
Simultaneously, their ego is so fragile that they don’t want to seem like a loser.
Be supportive
He values actions over words, and he isn’t likely to get emotionally intimate until he’s in a situation where he feels safe and secure.
However, once he decides to open up to you, he will be more than happy to talk to you if you are confident in yourself.
But when you try to make him feel uncomfortable, he will shut down, and you will never see him again. This can get tiring if you don’t see the reasoning behind it.
Even when you try to be understanding and want to be sensitive, he will see right through your vibe, and the moment you try to explain it, he will refuse to listen.
However, if you have this idea that a Virgo man will be more sensitive and more open to you, it is better that you know that you should get to know him better and understand his shy side.
The only time he will open up to you is when he feels secure and supported.
