It’s so rare to hear about men expressing their feelings to women. I’m here to tell you that there are three simple steps you can take to open up a man.
So start putting those first two into action, and you’ll see the change in his demeanor almost immediately.
Step 1: Warm-up
First, you have to take some time to warm up to your partner. While you’re watching a movie together, or just lying around in bed, imagine the words to a heartfelt romantic song in your head.
Then let it play out in your mind, hearing the words that express what you’re feeling.
When you’re ready, open your mouth, say “I’m feeling…” and hold it there. And then wait. Take a few deep breaths to help calm your heart rate, and then relax into the word.
Once you’ve finished, you can say, “I don’t know what I’m feeling right now, but I want to…”
Step 2: Start listening
Keep this open-ended, almost-angry phrase going, and listen. Don’t interrupt or try to give him advice or statements of your own.
Just let him talk. Wait until he gets a few sentences out, and then listen.
Then when he stops, ask what he means. And when he’s done, listen again.
Be prepared to repeat the process. Don’t force your own opinions or take on responsibility.
Step 3: Stay put
After he’s finished, let the words sit with you for a few minutes. Take some time to let your feelings settle.
Remember that sometimes we’re more conscious of our emotions when expressing them than when we’re just thinking about them.
One of the biggest barriers to starting an emotional conversation is that it’s hard to know how to start. And it can be hard to say “I feel” at the moment.
But let your partner know that you’re ready to talk and that you’re just listening. It’s not rude to let him process.
Once your partner has finished, it’s time to open up your own emotions.
Step 4: Work through your own
If you want to be the man who opens up to a woman, it’s important to acknowledge that you’re doing something very uncomfortable. But start by facing those fears.
Name your fear. If you’re afraid to open up, tell yourself that you’ll say what you have to say.
And then do it anyway. Just admit it to yourself and not to anyone else.
You’ll soon learn that you’re capable of doing this. When it gets tough, remember that knowing that you can say these words will make the challenge easier to bear.
Step 5: Play a game
The second step in working through your fear is to find a fun way to work through it. Try a game.
Just act out something that makes you feel vulnerable.
Challenge yourself to explain what it feels like to make that move. Get into it, and make a game out of it.
Step 6: Identify what comes with opening-up
If you’re the kind of guy who wants to hear all about a woman’s day, ask her, and then listen. A big part of dating is getting to know someone’s life.
Why not listen to her and let her know that you’re interested in hearing more?
Similarly, if you’ve got a buddy who you know wants to talk about work all the time, and he’s embarrassed to bring up his concerns, let him know that you’re interested in hearing what he has to say.
If he’s not comfortable coming right out and saying it, ask if you can take notes and listen later.
Remember, you don’t have to be the one to take the first step. Let your partner initiate the dialogue.
Most of the time, that’s the most honest, powerful thing you can do.
Conclusion
I’m a hopeless romantic, and I’m always looking for tips for opening up a relationship. If we all followed these rules, the world would be a better place!
The article I’m about to share with you is a favorite among my readers.
I want them to keep it coming!
A lot of my blog posts are just straight talk on sex and relationships. But this one is different. It’s specifically about the emotional part of dating.
And, I’m not silly either. There is a lot of emotional baggage that guys bring with them when they get into a relationship.
And, it’s a huge turn-off.
No matter their attitude towards women, as soon as the woman shows interest, they get defensive and clingy. They become possessive and jealous.
Sure, you’re just some girl who took a liking to his cool phone. But, this will ruin a potential relationship, for sure.
Even though you have no idea what’s up, a guy will sabotage a potential relationship in a heartbeat. He’ll feel like he can’t have you because you could be so much better than the girl he’s with.
Why?
Because they are emotionally tied to another person, and that makes you very attractive to them.
For example, you can’t have sex with them until they are ready for you. They’ll believe that you’re the most amazing person ever.
It might not make sense, but trust me on this one.
The emotional hang-ups in men are what draws them to women in the first place. We girls are the only ones who can put these men in check and get their emotional baggage off their chest.
Sure, you could act like a clingy slut all the time and get them going. But you can’t do that forever. They’ll lose interest in you.
I talked to some guys about this, so you can get a full insight into what they think.
