This article will discuss how to tell a girl finds you attractive. It’s not exactly an easy feat, I know, but trust me, it’s possible.
The response I hear most often from guys (and sadly, it’s true!) is, “But, she doesn’t even know me!”
Well, if she doesn’t even know you, who the hell does she think she’s looking at?
When you know, you know
I’m not saying you should let her win all of the time; of course not. We all have a lot of inner dignity that we don’t want to have shattered by your actions, but to give you a hint of what to say:
“That’s a great jacket! Do you like it?”
“That’s a great shirt!”
“That’s a great tie!”
“I love that sweater!”
“I love your hair!”
“You look great in that.”
“Your butt is so cute in that.”
Even if your responses seem straightforward, you’ll have to start the conversation with one of these lines in mind:
“I don’t think you’d believe me if I told you that I actually like you, but I do.”
“Would you like to hang out sometime?”
“I like to think I’m cute, but actually, I’m not. But I would like to be, so I guess we’re doing this together.”
The irony of it all
I’ve definitely heard this response a lot: “You’re too good to be true.” The irony of this phrase isn’t lost on me. It would be one thing if this person weren’t interested in you, but they are.
So, maybe you should be a little concerned, but that’s not the case. This is just a smart response.
A charming way to let them know that you’re interested without coming off as too pushy. The girl you’re interested in will know that you’re interested in her because it won’t take much time to figure out.
It’s a subtle way to start a conversation by being bold. What a world it would be if everyone were this forward all the time! Just remember to use it sparingly.
Another move to try is, “Do you want to come with me?” You’re not just asking her to hang out; you’re asking her if she wants to go with you.
If the answer is a clear “yes,” she will almost always say “yes” to your invitation, at least the first time.
If you do go for this option, though, you need to be aware of the risks. It’s likely that if she says yes, she’s going to want to spend the whole night with you.
To be clear, I’m not saying this is bad; there’s a lot to be said for a potential relationship. But if she doesn’t want to go out, please don’t beg her to go out.
It might seem obvious, but please, don’t.
Talk to her
But back to the conversation; let’s say you have her on the hook, so to speak, and she accepts your invitation. She’s the one who knows where you’re taking her, so let’s go. (FYI: this usually involves the forest preserve, which is good because it’s more secluded.)
Here’s how you’re going to find out whether she wants to go out with you:
If she keeps walking: You’re off the hook.
You’re off the hook. If she turns to you and starts asking questions about the place: You’re in the clear.
You’re in the clear. If she stops walking and turns to you and asks, “Are we going to the forest preserve?”: She probably wants to go.
Now that you have her on the hook, you’re ready to ask the big question, which is, “Do you want to come with me?”
Wait for a second: This might seem straightforward, but it isn’t. At first glance, you’re asking her if she wants to go out with you.
But here’s the thing: You want to know if she wants to hang out, and she wants to know if she wants to go out with you. There’s actually a subtle difference here.
“Do you want to come with me?” should be read “Do you want to hang out?” It sounds like you’re interested in going out to a club, but this isn’t what you’re asking.
What you’re asking here is, “Do you want to come with me?” Your phrasing might feel awkward to you, but use it as a conversation starter.
Now here’s a little side note: Don’t be pushy.
If she says, “Yes, I want to come with you,” then great! She’s obviously interested, so that’s a great start.
But if she starts talking about something else, or bails, then back off. Most people are really pretty good at picking up on subtle cues, and they’re also pretty good at reading between the lines.
Trust me; I’ve been in your shoes many times. I’ve found that the best thing to do is follow your gut, and if something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
This question works best in a larger group, where she will want to know if you have other plans. If she’s planning on hitting up some music at a club or bar, she will likely want to know if you’ll go with her.
Or if she wants to have a drink with you and her friends at a bar, she’ll want to know if you’ll join her.