Have you ever had to ask someone if you are saying something to them the right way or if you are doing it the right way? It’s not always easy, but there are some signs that you can learn to identify,
for example, when you are being asked, ‘do you like me?’
If you feel you know the answer to that question by the way they are acting or how they are saying things, you are probably on the right track.
There are some ways to help convey that you like a girl or are interested in them, and these signs are designed to make the most of the situation. So make sure you learn them and use them!
These are some general guidelines you can use.
First impressions are everything
When someone first interacts with you, do you ask them about themselves? Are they talkative and easy to talk to?
Do they make you laugh? Do they offer to help you or get involved?
If you really like someone, the chances are that you would want to get to know them in more detail.
So how do you make the first impression?
Have you got someone to call you and wish you a good day? Do you want to see them when they come to work?
When you think about it, first impressions are important because you will be spending a lot of time with that person over a period of time, so it’s important to make them good.
Think about it this way; if you work with someone for a few days, you have probably talked to them or seen them more than your workmates or someone you live with. When it comes to making that first impression, this is just as important as your actual first impression.
Talk, talk, talk!
Asking someone if they like you is one way of saying you like them. Talking about yourself can also reveal a lot about a person.
So if you like a person, you should try to talk about several topics with them and be sure to listen as well.
Just remember that some people have been known to avoid talking too much in interviews and won’t always talk about themselves. So make sure you can get your favorite topics out!
This can also be a way to test if they are genuinely interested in you and truthful. Make it a conversation rather than a monologue.
If you are with someone you are attracted to and just can’t stop talking, you probably hit the ‘tipping point’ in the relationship. You may not have heard it from me, but I’m sure you have heard it from a friend or someone else.
That stage of attraction is the stage where it is probably more important to listen and see how they respond.
Don’t just be passive-aggressive, speak but be sure to listen and pay attention to the response.
It’s good to know that the person wants to be there with you, but it is not so good to be there with them, just for the sake of it. The relationship should be of mutual benefit, and you should be there for them and with them.
When you like someone, and they are ‘with you,’ they are probably trying to think about what to say next and how they should respond to you and the other things you talk about. So don’t just go on, be the other way around and try to speak about yourself.
You could say something like:
“Well, I like ice cream. What’s your favorite flavor?”
This allows you to get to know a little about each other; it also gives them a chance to speak about something important to them, something special to them.
You may get a few rambling sentences in, but at least you are starting to get to know them as well.
They may not go into much detail, but at least they are talking to you and not turning around the table or going to the toilet.
This is a common opener from people who are not sure about a person. The goal is to get to know them and make sure they are getting to know you.
You may be tempted to make a funny joke about their favorite flavor of ice cream, but just go for it and have a go!
They will think it was funny, you might even find it funny, and you may make friends. If they don’t, then at least, you tried. I usually try to have a crack at stuff. I am not that confident in myself, but I never want to be a bore. If you don’t try, you’ll never know.
This is a good way to find out about a person and get to know them. If it is ok with them, then carry on talking. If it is not ok with them, then maybe they aren’t that interested.
This is a cool way to find out more about someone without giving much away.
Takedown notes
This one depends on what you talk about, but you should get an answer if you ask a good enough question. The thing about interviews is that you don’t want to be in there all day.
But a lot of it is taking notes so you can keep it up in the car or wherever you are, and even then, it will be pretty hard.
It is also hard to talk and listen and remember all the different things you are saying. So make sure you have a good flow and that you are making notes.
I will say this one with my experience, though, if I have to think about what I want to say, it gets tough and usually very boring.
This is another great way to learn more about someone. When I am working on a project, I make notes about it.
I will write down different ideas of how I could organize it or what I could do to make it easier or easier to follow.
I try to write down at least two or three things about what I am talking about, but if I am really excited about it, I might try to write down at least five or ten. But I will try to get this down in small chunks as well.
You can write as much or as little as you want. Sometimes it is nice to have a one-liner, sometimes it is good to have it explained.
Either way, it is more interesting, and it will help you recall if you have to work on a project together.
Even if you can’t remember everything you need to, it is a great way to remember certain elements.
Conclusion
Think of a good way to bring this subject up, ask good questions and get to know them.
A solid opener is to start with your name, tell them what you do, find something you have in common, and then bring them into the conversation.
If you do this regularly, you can build up a good level of trust, and you will have something to talk about.
Think about how you will approach someone, think about where to start, and then start small.
Then think of questions to ask the person.
Think of questions that would make them excited to answer.