Having an emotional connection with someone is very important. A lack of this connection can lead to an increase in insecurities.
The decrease of someone’s love and support will make them feel unloved and unwanted.
Many people are suffering from this issue. You can also be suffering from this issue.
However, you can get out of this feeling and get a better relationship with others by doing this.
Have an intense connection with one person (or two people)
Most of the relationship issues we have can be solved with strong, deep connections with one person. Sometimes this person can be a best friend or a spouse.
Just like an athlete, if you have an intense connection with a certain person, they will be willing to help you. They will understand the problems you are facing and offer you some advice to fix the issue.
They will have a better understanding of your problems and how to solve them.
The analogy of a sportsperson and a psychologist can be helpful here.
The stronger the relationship, the easier it will be to talk and share your problems with this person.
Being enamored and romanticized of the other person
Have you ever been enamored by someone? Have you been romantically in love with them?
Have you ever done something like this, “I’m so in love with you”?
This was a romantic act. However, if you are in an abusive relationship, you can abuse this act.
You can claim that you are in love with the person. The other person can become addicted to your affections and try to please you.
You can play with the other person’s emotions, and emotions can easily take a back seat when it comes to a close, intimate relationship.
Relationships take a lot of work, effort, and patience. If you are in a relationship and find the other person constantly distracted by another person, it might be a red flag.
This might mean that the other person is focusing on something else.
You can easily manipulate someone by saying, “I am so in love with you.” This will cause the other person to care about you.
It will cause the other person to love you even more.
If the other person is in love with you, they will put you on a pedestal. They will support you.
They will do everything for you. However, as time goes by, you will slowly be replaced by the other person.
They will start to change. They will become selfish and obsessive.
If you see a similar pattern in someone, try and pay attention. It could be a red flag.
Thinking that everyone can be trusted, especially others
Think about it. How many people can you trust?
How many people can you trust with your life?
Have you ever given an honest answer to this question? If so, can you trust anyone else, even with your life?
You can always trust a doctor with your life. However, you can never trust that person with your money.
If you find this difficult to believe, think about the scene in The Usual Suspects. It is a movie about a group of students who are in jail for a crime.
They have to try to prove their innocence.
The movie shows them killing a man who they believe is the real criminal. The movie has a twist at the end. The main character cannot trust anyone with his life.
He has to watch people murder and rape to survive.
Even when you have nothing to lose, you will most likely trust those you know are good. However, if you have something to gain, you will trust those who will give you something in return.
One person I would trust more than anyone else in the world is my dog, Oscar. I know that he would never do something harmful to me.
I know that if I needed to, I could always ask him to get me out of a sticky situation.
But if I needed to trust a stranger with my life, I would not trust anyone else with my life. I would know that no person can give me their life in exchange for mine.
Saying someone has “narcissistic tendencies”
This is a lie. Narcissism is normal.
You might find a narcissistic person annoying, but it is not a bad thing.
Narcissism is when you want others to look at you, take care of you, and make you feel better about yourself. However, they will often do wrong things.
They may do hurtful things, or they might cheat on you.
This means that you will probably lose respect for that person.
They will probably have trouble relating to other people. They may become convinced that they are better than everyone else.
They may view life as a competition.
If you have a friend who has narcissistic tendencies, it does not mean that you are bad, lazy, or weak. It does not mean that you have “no moral fiber.” It does not mean that you have no principles.
It means that you have a friend who needs help. It means that you are trying to help that person. It means that you are trying to save them from themselves.
Look at people who really need help.
What do you see? Well, there is often a lot of pain.
Sometimes, there is anger. Sometimes, there is pain and suffering.
If there are plenty of painful emotions, there will most likely also be some nice emotions. The main problem for the person you are helping is that they have difficulty expressing the nice things in their life.
You would probably want to tell them. They would want to hear it.
