This article will discuss why do guys apologize months later after a fight or even a breakup. I do not want to come across as a pessimist, but I do believe that your “first love” might be the only one you’ll ever have.
I don’t believe in love at first sight or soul mates, but I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. If he is someone who is head over heels in love and you two can make each other happy, then yes, he is your “soul mate,” but if he is someone you see just once in a blue moon, then he is not your soul mate.
Guys tend to fall in love all over again the minute they see you. Here are five reasons why guys will apologize months later after a fight or a breakup.
He is testing the waters
Maybe he felt bad and wanted to apologize. I’m sure his ego got bruised, and he’s not used to a girl asking him to apologize.
So when a girl does it, it really makes him say that he should apologize because that’s what a girl should do. I know how it feels when a guy gets hurt, and he wants to make things right.
If you two broke up over something trivial, he would apologize to get back in your good graces.
It’s the way he is and the way he has learned to express himself
Being a guy, he is very expressive. Maybe he might not have said the exact words as if you would say them, but he definitely expressed his opinion through actions and body language.
If a guy isn’t used to someone saying he was wrong or expressing his feelings, he will apologize because he is just testing the waters.
He knows he has hurt you deeply, and he knows he has to say he is sorry.
He doesn’t want to deal with the aftermath of breaking up
Since this is the second time he breaks up with you, he knows what he did wrong. He may have chosen to make a move or let it happen, but he doesn’t want to deal with it.
I get it. There are many times when I get upset after breaking up, and I want to yell at the guy and not deal with the fallout of it.
I know it’s not the way it should be, but it is what it is.
He realizes what you are and what you bring to the table
He will apologize if he saw what you could give to someone and not what you take from someone. You may not be the type of girl he’s used to, but he does like you.
He may not have realized what you can offer to someone and just thought you took and never gave in return. I know it’s not easy to see that he was right all along, but I do believe that a man will apologize to get back in your good graces.
He wants a second chance because he cares about you and wants you in his life
Maybe he missed the boat the first time and wanted to apologize because he wants to continue his relationship with you. Maybe he lost you, and he wants to get back together.
It could be that you were never his “first love,” and he wasn’t sure if he could trust you or if he wanted to trust you. Whatever the reason, I believe that you deserve someone who does want to be with you.
If he isn’t sure, then he probably wasn’t sure in the first place.
It’s all about the outlook
If I have a car crash and I have a broken arm, I know it’s a pain in the ass—no doubt about it.
But when I go to work the next day, I don’t say, “Hey, sorry about the car crash yesterday. I was in the car the whole time.”
No. That’s the kind of attitude I have toward an accident.
The same holds for a guy apologizing. If I ask him about it the next day, “How was your day?” is his response.
If he had to take his brother to the hospital and sees the doctors talking to his brother and my name is not mentioned, he’s not going to even think about how I was involved in his brother’s hospital visit.
You’re apologetic if you’re thinking about what he’s going to think of you.
If you don’t learn from it, it won’t last
If you don’t learn from it, it won’t last. To decide to get involved in an accident, something that I’ve learned in the process, you have to consider what you’re going to lose.
A lawyer might tell you to avoid these situations, but there are costs associated with everything we do at the end of the day.
If you value something more than your life, it’s an investment you need to make.
